Attitude is everything they say.
I never understood the importance of having the right attitude towards goals, dreams and aspiration. For me, being successful in life was a matter of competence. I saw people who always focused on having the right attitude being on some mumbo-jumbo train that was going nowhere fast.
The most competent people will always win I thought. I believed if you were talented, competent and worked hard success will naturally gravitate towards you. Motivational speaker who talked about attitude and having the right attitude towards things bored the hell out of me. I saw them as some snake oil salesmen out there to make money. Although my perception about motivational speakers haven’t changed much. I have newfound respect for speakers who are consistent in teaching their audiences how to develop a leadership/winning/empathy attitude. The “believe in yourself and manifest things into existence” type speakers still don’t have my respect.
My judgment about competence always winning came from a faulty place of youthful energy and immaturity. In the real world competence is very subjective and success is highly nuanced. What might be seen as competence for me might be seen as incompetence for someone else.
People give jobs, contracts and opportunities to people they like and believe they can have a cordial and respectful relationship with. Regardless of how competent and talented an individual is, if an individual has a bad attitude and is difficult to work with, a few people will like to work with such an individual.
Having this knowledge on hindsight and being on a quest to be a peak performer. I look at how peak performers I admire build the right attitude whiles they present their competencies to the world.
Below are quotes from peak performers I admire and it tells me a thing or two about their approach and their outlook towards life.
“IQ is a measure, to some degree, of innate ability. But social savvy is knowledge. It’s a set of skills that have to be learned. It has to come from somewhere, and the place where we seem to get these kinds of attitudes and skills is from our families.” Malcom Gladwell
“This is an economy based on connection. Can you be heard, can you connect, can you be trusted?” Seth Godin
“Be genuine. Be remarkable. be worth connecting with.” Seth Godin
When you add value to people’s lives (for instance, giving away quality content for free), the opportunities that come back to you cannot be quantified. James Altucher
If there is anything these peak performers have taught me, it is the fact that they have certain traits that make them strive for what they do and where they want to be which comes as part of having the right attitude.
- They Give up Status
The reason a lot of people do not pursue the things they would like to achieve is the status mindset. The fact that they’re going to be an amateur in a new field which bring down their status. Strongly tied with status is “fear” because having status as Seth Godin states come with fear of losing it. Hence, we do all we possibly can to maintain the status quo and not try something new.
Rejection is painful and an undesired feeling. Nobody wants to be rejected and there is the social stigma that comes with it. Hence the fear of rejection rather paralyses a lot of people in order not to take action.
- They are Generous which breeds Innovation
Peak performers desire to rise to the top of their chosen fields
Peak performers have the attitude of wanting to give and being generous. Seth Godin talks constantly about generosity as a way to build unique relationships. If you do not half-ass and give your all. The universe opens the door to you and create opportunities for you to innovate and bring something unique to the table anytime.
- They view setback as a reason to be better
Peak performers also suffer setbacks like the rest of us and they know setbacks are a part of the human experience. What they do is recognize this and not let it hold bring them down.
Life can be hard sometimes. This means we keep doing the work and make the hard choices. Not leaving the emotional labour but carrying the emotional labour as a seal of work and a proof our preparedness to contribute and make the world a better place. The more we do this the better we become.
- They don’t hold grudges, are not bitter and they recognize how this affects psychology. They have mastered the things they can’t control and are in total control of their worlds.
As human as we are, people will step on our toes make us uncomfortable but peak performers rise above and do not what is right, they do not settle for unnecessary drama and rise above. Peak performers always rise above and create goodwill
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